Friday, December 26, 2008
Christmas, tags and adoption news...
I have been so sick with a cold or something. I woke up in the middle of the night with, what I am assuming, is pinkeye!!! My eyes are red and a little tender, so I don’t want to put my contacts in. Unfortunately, the only glasses I have are the ones I got during my sophomore year of high school – fourteen years ago. They are nothing I would ever wear out in public. This should be fun….
In adoption news, all of our paperwork for our dossier has been authenticated! I just checked the mail and…….WE RECEIVED OUR APPROVAL FROM CIS!!!!! We will have it notarized on Monday and send it off to Kate and once she has it authenticated, we will be on the waiting list. I was writing this blog and started typing that we were waiting on it and decided to check the mail and there it was! Merry Christmas to us!!!
So, over a month ago Heidi tagged me and I am just now getting to it. So, here are seven random things about me…
1. I am a little leery of dogs. Okay I am pretty much scared of dogs. I panic when a big dog is near me and even get a little jumpy when small dogs lick, bark and jump. I am not like one of those people you used to see on Jerry Springer or Maury Povich who runs around the room screaming if a canine gets within 100 feet of them, but dogs are not my best friend. I think this fear stems from a childhood incident. I was walking home from a neighbor’s house when I was 4 or 5 and a dog ran up to me and knocked me down and started licking me. I was terrified and then swelled up from the dog’s saliva. Fun times.
2. I went through a phase in high school when I wanted to be a secret service agent. I watched In the Line of Fire and loved the scene where they secured the hotel room before the President’s arrival. This was my basis for temporarily choosing this career path. I don’t think I would have liked taking a bullet. Fast forward about 10 years and I worked as the event coordinator for a large performing arts facility and VP Cheney was attending an event. I was given a keychain from one of the agents, which I kept until it fell apart. I sometimes liked to pretend that I had an ‘in’ or was an agent myself.
3. I am allergic to Actifed. It made me go temporarily blind when I was four. My mom gave me a dose and I said “Mommy, I can’t see”. I have never tried it since.
4. I love numbers. I think they are beautiful. Anything involving numbers excites me. Nerd. Math was always my favorite subject. 3948739285793847928983598729
5. I (heart) crime dramas…A LOT. Law and Order (all of them), CSI (all of them), Numbers, NCIS, etc. I have them on constantly at home. It is a nice background noise for me when I am working.
6. I am Type 1 Diabetic. I was diagnosed with ‘juvenile diabetes’ when I was 20. I wear an insulin pump, which inserts into my stomach through a cannula (kind of like a catheter). I change the location every 3-4 days. Even though the pump sometimes feels like wearing my pancreas on the outside of my body or being hooked up to life support, it really does give me a lot more freedom.
7. I am a project junkie. I can throw myself into a project at home or for our business and be completely consumed by it. I can spend days and days focused on nothing else. I don’t have to sleep that much, just work. It drives my family crazy. Sometimes I wish I wouldn’t have quit gymnastics when I was younger. I have students who are very talented gymnasts and they train everyday for several hours. I think I would have loved that. The commitment and focus that takes….but then I remember that I am not very athletic and realize I am better off teaching music.
I am supposed to tag seven people, but only know two people who have yet to be tagged. I will tag:
1. Amy
2. Amanda
If you want to be tagged, let me know and I will add you to the list!
Monday, December 8, 2008
A quick update…
Friday, August 29, 2008
We are approved X TWO
So, now for the big announcement.... WE ARE ADOPTING SIBLINGS! We had been going back and forth trying to decide what would be best for our family. We decided that adopting siblings would be best for our children and family as a whole. We have been approved to adopt two children under the age of four, however we have requested that they be under the age of three. We are very excited about this decision. We know it will be a huge adjustment, but it will come with so many blessings.
That is all for now. I hope everyone has a great Labor Day Weekend.
Friday, July 4, 2008
moving along
1. Passport photos taken
2. Passport applications submitted (by the way they actually take your birth certificates and will mail them back to you when they are done with them. Luckily we already submitted everything that required a copy of our BC)
3. Bank letter written and notarized
4. Child abuse check notarized and submitted
5. Money orders for FBI clearance
6. Fingerprints for FBI clearance - okay I have to pause for a moment for a small vent/concern. We went to the police station and they asked to see one of our ID's when we paid for the fingerprint cards. She told us they would ask for both of our ID's when we had our fingerprints taken. So, we went back with the officer and he began getting everything ready and I asked if he needed to see our ID's and he said NO. That's right, NO. WHAT? ARE YOU KIDDING ME? In the world of identity theft, etc. this did not set well with Michael and I. I am sure this does not happen everywhere, but seriously!
7. Went to FedEx and sent off the FBI Clearance along with a return envelope for them to send it back to us.
8. Collected all of our reference letters
9. Went to the doctor's office and had my arm read. They did a TB test on Tuesday, along with all of the other blood work required for the Dossier. I had to go back and have them look at my arm to prove I didn't have TB. What happens to your arm if you do? I felt like they were reading my palm or something.
So, we really accomplished a lot. We ran out of time, so we weren't able to mail group three of the application. I will do that tomorrow. We are still lacking a few things from that group, but we will hopefully have it all in by the end of next week.
We are getting closer everyday!
Sunday, June 29, 2008
paperwork and tap shoes
So, we have now sent in two of the three parts and soon we should be receiving a call to set up our home study! It is really starting to feel real. Michael and I are actually so glad we waited three months to begin the paperchase. We needed that time to decide what was best for our family and make some decisions about our adoption. We began this process thinking our child would be a baby (the younger the better). After praying and much discussion, our hearts have changed. Stay tuned...
I hope everyone is having a great summer. I will leave you with an ever-so-cute picture of my nephew, Aidan. We just finished two of our eight weeks of performing arts summer camps. He has been walking around our academy in his tap shoes all summer long. Cheryl managed to get him to pose for this pic. A true performer!
Monday, April 21, 2008
garage sale. painting. wedding.
We also went to a wedding a little over a week ago. The bride is a college friend of Michael's. A lot of his friends were there. They came from all over the country. They are all musical theatre people and busy performing, so it was great they were able to make it. Here are a few pics...
Brett and Jenny (Brett is one of Michael's closest friends.)
Us. Taking a short pause from the craziness of our life.
Michael and friends.
Stephanie and I. (Stephanie is my sister-in-law's sister. We share Aidan and Lilly as our wonderful nephew and niece! She also went to school with Michael)
Wednesday, April 2, 2008
Why adoption?
Kids and Moms (and Dads)
I have been thinking a lot about kids lately... kids who don't have moms (and dads)... kids waiting for moms, and what life is like for kids who do not have parents. I have been thinking about the transformation that occurs when a child realizes he has a mom, a dad, a family...security, love and somewhere to belong.
With some of our kids, that "realization" that they have a Mom and a family, that they have someone to belong to, someone to watch over them, someone to care for them and someone to love them, has been gradual. With some of our kids, there has been this "a ha!" moment, where you could just see that they "got it".
There was baby Maggie... almost four months old... laying on the bed in our hotel in Vietnam on our first full day together (I had been visiting her for days at the hospital before this point). Before her hospitalization she had lived in a government orphanage where the babies had their names written on their legs in black magic marker so they could be told apart, and got very very little personal attention. She didn't cry when she was hungry or when she wanted something. She was quiet and tiny, but I could tell she loved being held and loved the attention I was giving her.
I walked away from the bed where she was laying to get a bottle for her, and she made this teeny tiny pitiful (feeble attempt at a) cry, and I rushed over and picked her up and offered her the bottle. She got this look of amazement on her face with a little smile that seemed to say, "Holy cow! You mean that crying thing WORKS with you??" and after that she did not want anyone but me and always wanted me close. She got it. I was there for her. I was her mom.
With Mercy, she was nine years old. She had had a mom before, who did not value or respect her role as a mom. Mercy knew neglect and abuse and loss. Despite that, she came to us with an open heart and a surprising amount of trust. At one point during our first week, Des needed her hair washed (and Mercy had been the one to care for Des up until that point, even though she was only three years older). Mercy told Des to go into the bathroom so she could wash her hair, and I gently told Mercy that I could wash Des's hair, and reminded her that that was the kind of thing a Mom should do. The social worker had warned us that "letting go" of being the caregiver of Des might be hard for Mercy and we might have some power struggles over it... but Mercy looked at me and looked at Des and looked back at me and said, "You wash all the other little kids... You would wash Des's hair too?" and I said, "Yes". And she said, "And then what would I do?" and I said, "Well, you could go play." And she looked at Des again and then back at me, and then she got this huge smile on her face, and you could almost SEE her letting go of the responsibility of caring for her little sister. She ran over and gave me a hug, and then took off to play. She got it. I was there for her and for her sister. I was their mom.
With Solomon, that moment came when we left AHOPE for the second time together. We had spent two days together, and then we had gone back to AHOPE to visit. As we walked through the gate and the kids called out his name and came running to say hi to him, he sat in my arms with huge, silent tears running down his cheeks. He would not make eye contact with anyone (including me, the kids and the nannies) and just stared ahead with this heartbreaking acceptance of the fact that he thought he was being left. Again. It hurt me so much that he had come to accept this from life... that nice people came and went, but he did not truly belong to any of them. I couldn't imagine how his little heart felt and how he had endured all that he had already. I comforted him and held him close and told him over and over again in his ear that I would never, never, never leave him.
He started to relax a little the longer we were there and I stayed with him, but he was not his usual self. And then it happened. I put him in the sling, we waved good-bye, went back out through the gate and headed back up the road towards the hotel for some lunch. He got this HUGE grin on his face, and was bouncing up and down in the sling laughing, and then grabbing my face and kissing it over and over as we walked. He was so happy and joyful. He got it. He was not going to be left again. I was HIS. He was mine. I was his Mom.
Since then I have watched him blossom with love. I have watched him learn how to expect and look forward to being held often, comforted when he cries, rocked to sleep, having his needs met, getting individual attention and being smothered in hugs and kisses often. As I crawled into bed last night, a few hours after I had put him down to sleep, his little body turned towards me, and without waking up, he put his arm on me, snuggled in close and let out a content sigh.
All kids deserve that knowledge, that peace and that comfort. All kids deserve to know that they are loved and that they belong to someone.
I believe with all my heart that our Heavenly Father did not send us down here to go at life alone, to worry about ourselves and to focus our lives on material and trivial things. I believe with all my heart that we are meant to live in families... mothers, fathers and children together, focusing our lives on loving, enjoying and serving each other.
We have several reasons to believe that Solomon most likely spent very little (if any) time with his first mother. And yet even after multiple changes in caregivers and "homes", multiple losses and lots of suffering without a mom to comfort him, he KNEW what a Mom was for from our very first days together. His heart and soul reached out to mine and grabbed on firmly. He knew that he wanted a mom. He knew that hugs, kisses and rock-a-byes were something he wanted, deserved and needed. The other kids we met in Ethiopia knew it too. They knew that they belonged with parents. They knew that something big was missing from their lives.
My heart rejoices for my kids and others that have had their lives changed so drastically...who were once alone, and now live with love, security and family. Watching Solomon over the past few weeks has reminded me of what an incredible miracle adoption is.
And at the same time, my heart aches for the so very many kids who are living life alone right now. . Even the very best orphanage is no comparison to a home and family. It is wrong that these kids must wait and yearn for a family. They deserve, as all children do, the peace and security that comes with the knowledge of knowing that they belong to someone, that they are being cared for and that they are loved.
This is why I support adoption...because I have seen the sadness in the eyes of the children who wait for moms, I have seen the amazing transformation in children once they have been "claimed" and loved, and because I believe, with all my heart, that that love and belonging is what our lives on this Earth are supposed to be about.
Monday, March 17, 2008
it's in the mail...
I had Michael take of picture of me holding the envelope. We took it outside by the mailbox, simply because it made a good background. I actually took it to the post office and didn't leave it in our mailbox at home.
I made Michael pose for a pic too! He thought it was just about the most ridiculous thing, if you can't tell by the picture.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
i made out with blue 7
They will be featuring the Project 8256 merch and will have Blue 7 shirts for sale. The shirts say “I made out with Blue 7”, and they have very graciously decided to donate $5.00 of the sale of each t-shirt to our adoption fund. AMAZING!
If you live in the OKC metro area, please support Blue 7. They are wonderful people and we know their business will continue to succeed.
In addition to all of the prints they normally carry, Amy has added lots-o-greeting cards and the following beauties:
P.S. Their new location is at 7518 N.May at May and Grand, just south of Starbucks. Plus they have now added a Blue 7 Kids store right next door to their new location!
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Friday, February 22, 2008
Introducing Lilly Grace Morris....
She was born this morning at 4:59 am. Cheryl was due on 2/17, but continued to teach dance classes all this week. She taught a tap class until less than 9 hours before her daughter was born. Isn't that unbelievable?
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Win a New Vacuum!
Sunday, February 10, 2008
36 pounds lighter…
Not me, my house. That’s right. As an update to my previous post, “cluttered ramblings” I have been very busy purging. These were my original goals:
1. Paper purge – I am going to go through the papers piling up on my desk, some of which are obvious trash. I will also go through the mail…boo. If I have time I will move on to the file cabinets.
2. Closet purge – I am going to go through my closet and dresser drawers (even though I just did this in October) and rid myself of any clothes, shoes, socks, etc. that I can.
3. Bathroom purge – I will go through the bathroom and get rid of any old bottles of hair products, makeup, etc. This shouldn’t be too hard since I don’t really keep a lot of these types of products around. Also, Michael organized our bathroom a few months ago, so I won’t have too much work to do (no, ladies you cannot have him). I know there are some items I can toss, however.
I went through my closet and got rid of 9 POUNDS OF CLOTHING. Yes, I weighed it. I am neurotic. I went through my sock and underwear drawers and got rid of things I never wear. I still have yet to do the bathroom purge. It is really not going to take me long, but I just couldn’t ever convince myself to do it. All in all, I am feeling pretty good about my progress.
So, did anyone see Oprah last week? She did an episode based on Peter Walsh’s new book, Does This Clutter Make My Butt Look Fat? I never really watch Oprah anymore, but when I read the title of the episode, I was very intrigued. I was even more thrilled when I found out the connection to Peter Walsh. Being the organizational freak that I am, I love him. Who remembers him from Clean Sweep on TLC? The following are a couple of things he said on the show:
"People were contacting me … saying that, 'Suddenly I discovered that by clearing my space, I'm making much healthier food choices and I am starting to lose weight,'"
"Eating more and buying more is an attempt to fill the need for something more," he says. "Until you get those underlying issues dealt with, all the rest is a waste of time."
So now that I have purged 36 pounds of ‘clutter’, will my body be 36 pounds lighter? If only…
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
official contract of the h2o log.
Michael and I co-own a children’s performing arts academy and two of our high school students have noticed how much soda we drink. They have been giving Michael a particularly hard time about it recently. They bring him water and have evened ordered water for him at a restaurant and handed it to him to drink. Well, on Monday they took it to a whole new level. They created a contract for each of us. It reads as follows:
Official Contract of the H20 Log (Terms & Conditions)
I Katie Morris agree to drink a minimum of 3 glasses (or bottles) of water (H20) EACH DAY of the month of February (leap year included!) 2008 (starting February 5, 2008). This will be observed by Michael Morris and monitored by the contract draft/advisors, Katie ******* and Laree *****. Provided that you abide by these terms and conditions, you will be rewarded with A NEW CAR! Okay, not really, just kidding, but for real, it will be a SURPRISE prize, but trust us, it will be good.
If I had a scanner I would have included a copy of the entire contract, which includes a logo they created for themselves and a calendar on the back where we are to log our water consumption.
I just love these girls. They are such a joy to be around and always keep me laughing. I am really taking this contract seriously. I don’t want to let them down and I certainly can’t lie about it. More than anything, I want my prize!!!
Well, I am off to drink some water…..
Monday, February 4, 2008
penelope. edgar. laurel. george.
She has created a plethora of silhouettes, some of whom might remind you of the characters who have wondered into your life. She will also be adding some of her AMAZING collages, which she is most well known for. They are really incredible.
Penelope recently left her lucrative job in marketing to become a part-time nanny/part-time bartender. In between jobs you can typically find her at her neighborhood coffee shop working on her novel...about a girl who left her lucrative job in marketing to become a part-time nanny/part-time bartender. It's only semi autobiographical.
Meet Edgar...
When George was little he dreamed of being a super hero. Now that he's older and has realized his inability to fly, become instantly invisible or travel back and forth in time, he instead focuses on the day to day heroic activities--smiling at strangers, opening doors for others, and being nice to waiters. Perhaps not a super hero, but a pretty nice guy none the less.
Thursday, January 31, 2008
cluttered ramblings.
I have had a tiny bit of down time this week and have been concentrating on my home. I am trying to get everything cleaned. We are hoping to have our house on the market by mid April. We are moving to Norman, where our business is located. I want to really deep clean everything, which I will also have to do closer to April, but it would really feel great to have it done now.
I have really been thinking about all of the stuff we have and really all of the stuff we, as Americans, have. I was at home on the computer the other day and looking around my office at all of the things I have, particularly in the closet. Wow. I bet I have more items in my office than people in other countries have in their entire home. What is the point? Why are we the collectors of stuff? Now, I must say, I am not a packrat, hoarder, collector or whatever. I am actually quite the opposite. I don’t feel the need to hold on the most things. I have an annual garage sale and every year I vow to purge my home of all unnecessary items and I still have a lot of stuff. WHY????
I am really going to do it this time. Purge, purge, purge away. Now that I know there will be strangers walking through my house, I have a great goal. I also know that anything I get rid of I don’t have to move.
I started by having Michael go through his underwear and sock drawers, mainly because they were so full (because I was completely caught up on laundry) that they wouldn’t shut. He got rid of quite a lot, especially considering I had him do the same thing in October. He also nicely folded all of his underwear and socks and arranged them very beautifully in their respective drawers. Way to go Michael. What a guy!
So, I am going to concentrate on the following areas this week:
1. Paper purge – I am going to go through the papers piling up on my desk, some of which are obvious trash. I will also go through the mail…boo. If I have time I will move on to the file cabinets.
2. Closet purge – I am going to go through my closet and dresser drawers (even though I just did this in October) and rid myself of any clothes, shoes, socks, etc. that I can.
3. Bathroom purge – I will go through the bathroom and get rid of any old bottles of hair products, makeup, etc. This shouldn’t be too hard since I don’t really keep a lot of these types of products around. Also, Michael organized our bathroom a few months ago, so I won’t have too much work to do (no, ladies you cannot have him). I know there are some items I can toss, however.
Okay, so I will report back next week on my progress. Anyone else want to join in and clear clutter out of their own home?
I hope everyone has a great week!