Monday, December 20, 2010

We forget...

My daughter did not grow inside of me. I did not experience morning sickness, feel her kick or hear her first cry. I will never know what her first months in Ethiopia were like. There are things we missed – things we did not get to experience. We did, however, get to experience a deep love. A love for a child we had never met. Michael and I will never forget the moments when we opened the email and saw the tiny face of our daughter. For three months we stared at pictures and longed to hold her in our arms. We looked at them over and over again, hoping to notice something new. We bought her clothes, dreamed about what our lives would be like once she was here and shared our story with others. Adoption consumed our thoughts and we busied ourselves with preparations to travel to Ethiopia.

Adoption. It was all we could think about. And now...we forget. It is true. We forget she was adopted. Her skin does not match our skin, but we don’t think about it. We look at her and see our beautiful, precious daughter. She brings so much joy to everyone she meets. She is a blessing and is as much our child as one I birthed would be. I do not say these things lightly or in a way that appears that we forget about her heritage or her story. We do not. We love Ethiopia and it is the country where Sophia Mekdes was created. She will know her story and we will tell her about the wonderful country that allowed us to bring her home.

I am not writing this to downplay the importance of adoption. Rather, I am writing this to share our story of love. Love created our family. God’s love for us and our love for Him, brought the three of us together. I know there are many people who consider adoption, but think they won’t be able to love their adopted child like they would a biological one. I believe those feelings are very normal. However, in most cases, those feelings go away the moment you meet your child.

We chose adoption. We will choose it again. To us, adoption is an amazing gift God gave us and we feel so blessed to be able to know Him in this way. We were given the chance to fall in love with a tiny baby 8,256 miles away. We loved her before we even met her. Naturally, meeting her was amazing. Holding her for the first time and kissing her soft skin, was surreal. The love we have for her grows deeper everyday.
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Choose adoption. Let God turn your world upside down. You will experience a love deeper than you could ever imagine. Trust me. You will not regret it. If we had said no, we would have missed out on this…





Choose love. Take the jump. It may seem scary, but it is SO worth it!

6 comments:

Heidi said...

Beautifu and so true! I keep having dreams about doing it again...maybe some day :)

Matt and Sarah said...

What a beautiful post! I can't wait to experience that with our child!!!

Belleme said...

LOVE this post! Can I re-post a link? I couldn't say it any better, but agree 150%. Can't wait to "choose adoption" AGAIN! :)

AprilM said...

Love it!!!! We're ready to take the jump again...Wishing your family a MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

Eryn said...

LOVE this post. LOVE LOVE LOVE. I'm going to post a link, if you don't mind.

Stephanie said...

Oh, I love this post! Would you be willing to let us repost it on "We Are Grafted In" (www.wearegraftedin.com)? It is a Christian adoption website/forum. If you are willing, we would just need a picture and a brief bio to use when we repost it.
You can contact me at smurphy28@juno.com.
Stephanie
co-administrator of WAGI